Not Going to Shul? Rabbi Jeff’s Guide to Doing Jewish at Home on Rosh Hashanah

Rosh Hashanah is a time of reflection, renewal, and reconnection with our Jewish identities. But what if you're not planning to go to shul this year? Whether it’s because you’re feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or just prefer a more personal experience, it’s still possible to create a meaningful Rosh Hashanah at home. The beauty of Judaism is that it is adaptable and can meet us wherever we are—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Here’s how you can craft a home-based Rosh Hashanah experience that feels authentic and engaging.

1. Create a Space That Feels Like You’re Getting Away with Something

One of the most important aspects of creating a meaningful experience at home is making it feel special, almost as if you're getting away with something extraordinary. This isn’t about escaping tradition; it’s about embracing it in a way that feels fun and exciting. Judaism, at its best, should be something you look forward to. Think about those events in life that you eagerly anticipate—they’re meaningful because they’re fun, and fun is often what leads to deeper impact.

Your home-based Rosh Hashanah space should evoke that same feeling of excitement. Choose a cozy corner of your home, a backyard patio, or even a spot near a window where sunlight streams in. The key is to transform this space into something that feels like a departure from the ordinary. Drape a scarf or fabric that feels luxurious, light some candles, and play music that lifts your soul. Make it an environment that invites you to pause, reflect, and feel truly present.

2. Incorporate Jewish Objects and Artifacts That Speak to You

Rituals are the heart of Jewish practice, and they often include physical objects that ground us in tradition. While synagogues have tallitot, Torah scrolls, and shofar blasts, your home can be filled with Jewish objects that resonate with you. The beauty of creating a home-based ritual is that you’re in control. What connects you to your Jewish identity? Maybe it’s a cherished family Kiddush cup, a shofar that’s been passed down, or a pair of candlesticks you received as a gift.

But your Jewish objects don’t have to be traditional. This is your space. Perhaps a cookbook filled with recipes you’ve inherited from family will evoke a sense of connection. Maybe it’s something as simple as apples and honey, the sweetness of which reminds you of the new year’s potential. The goal is to use objects that help you feel present to your Jewish identity, whatever they may be.

3. Experiment with Jewish Words and Mindfulness

Rosh Hashanah is not just a time for ritual—it’s also a time for words, prayer, and reflection. Whether or not you’re fluent in Hebrew or comfortable with traditional liturgy, there are ways to incorporate Jewish mindfulness into your home practice. Experiment with Jewish words or blessings, even if they’re unfamiliar. Saying a blessing over apples and honey, for example, can be a moment to pause and think about the year ahead, your hopes, and your gratitude.

You don’t need to stick to formal prayers. Reflecting on concepts like teshuvah (repentance), tikkun olam (repairing the world), or shalom (peace) can help frame your thoughts. Write down your intentions for the coming year, speak them aloud, or simply meditate on them. Bring a sense of mindfulness into this practice, allowing it to be a time for both reflection and renewal.

4. Integrate Activities That Nourish Your Soul

Rosh Hashanah is about renewal, and renewal often comes from doing things that make us feel good. If yoga helps you center yourself, include it in your Rosh Hashanah ritual. If a quiet walk through the neighborhood clears your mind and opens your heart, make that part of your practice. You could even take a drive to a place that brings you peace, allowing the scenery to help you reflect.

The High Holidays are about the process, not just the destination. Rabbi Lizzi Heydemann teaches that "Going to shul is not doing the High Holidays, but the experience over the next 10 days." This journey of introspection and growth spans from Rosh Hashanah to Yom Kippur, and it's about how we engage with this time. Even small acts—like a walk in nature or journaling—can help you align with the deeper meanings of these days.

5. Block Out 90 Minutes (and If You’re Really Serious, Do It Again Tomorrow)

Carve out at least 90 minutes for this ritual. Set the intention that this is a sacred time, free from distractions. Whether you’re alone, with family, or friends, be present in the moment. You can use this time to reflect, engage in a creative activity, or simply rest and enjoy the quiet. And if you find that this practice works for you, consider repeating it the next day. After all, Rosh Hashanah is two days long!

In Conclusion

Rosh Hashanah doesn’t have to be confined to the walls of a synagogue. In fact, some of the most profound experiences can happen when we craft rituals that feel deeply personal and intentional. Whether you’re lighting candles in your living room, going for a meditative walk, or simply savoring the sweetness of apples and honey, you can create a meaningful Rosh Hashanah at home. This is your opportunity to connect with Judaism in a way that feels authentic and nourishing for you. So take a deep breath, find your sacred space, and step into the new year with intention and joy. Shana Tova!